Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Starting A New Relationship?

It is often said that when one door is closed, the other opens, indicating that the end of one thing can be the beginning of another.However, in order for someone to pass a new door, they need to leave the old one.However, even if the old door has been closed, it does not mean that one can go through the new door.Instead, they might stay next to the old door (though it\'s closed) and do everything they can to avoid the new one that opens.If they haven\'t left the old door yet, they may not even realize that the new one has been opened.In this case, they will not pay attention to the present and the present;They will be consumed by what has happened.If someone is stuck in the past, it is impossible for them to be present, which will prevent them from embracing the existing opportunities.This is not to say that someone should be forced to be present;Because it will show that a person is not working with himself.What has caused someone to fall into the past is not just something they need to ignore;This is what they need to listen.Like a child calling his parents.That part of oneself, caught in the past, is also calling to be heard.If the child is rejected, it is something that happens frequently, and there is a good chance that they will encounter all kinds of problems.This is also true when someone rejects those parts that are trying to communicate with them.They may ignore what they hear in a short time.Term, there\'s not a lot of problems, but that\'s not the case over time.In the words of Carl ZhengThe part in our hearts that we do not have face and feel is the root cause of all of our neurosis and suffering.When something is over, people may just know too much about how they feel, and then over time they may end up disjointed with how they feel.If they\'re finally cutProbably because they can\'t bear the pain.They are unlikely to focus on what will happen in the long run.If they are to avoid their feelings.If they feel overwhelmed, they don\'t believe they can suffer, and it will be normal to suppress their feelings.The only choice they choose is the only one they can choose from, and the people around them may encourage them to avoid feelings.They can tell them that they need to move on and it doesn\'t make sense to be stuck in the past.There is also the possibility that a person needs to look strong and does not believe that they will accept others if they are considered vulnerable.No matter why you feel the need to hide their feelings, it is impossible for them to embrace their emotional experience.When a relationship is over, it can be said that one door has been closed and the other will open soon.One way is to get someone to start a new relationship as a way to feel better.Another way is to let someone face the loss and make themselves sad.This does not mean that they will not start another relationship;That means they will take the time.Be prepared by sad losses, and people will do what they need to do to prepare for their next relationship.They can find other people to distract them, but they take a more conscious approach.Because they face their feelings, they do what they need to do in order to emotionally help the next person they meet.This will allow them not only to share their thoughts and bodies;It will also enable them to share their hearts.However, although someone will eventually be drawn to others to avoid their feelings or pain, they may also end up retreating.In this case, they will avoid starting another relationship in order to prevent themselves from having to face the feeling of loss that is extremely painful within them.This is not to say that one will do so consciously;Because it could be something that just happened.On the one hand, it will prevent them from letting someone in, but on the other hand, it will prevent them from having to face their feelings.The two kinds of pain that do not allow people to come in will cause pain, which will be seen as trivial compared to the pain they will experience if they are sad and gradually let people enter their lives.This pain may last forever, however, one day it will end if one is sad.If a person ever lets people in and then after a relationship is over they cut off their connection, they will know what it feels like to let people in, but it may be something they have experienced in their lives.So they may not know what it\'s like to let people in.Awareness in order for a person to open up, it will be important to keep in touch with their feelings and speak out the pain within them.If a person is out of touch with their feelings, or if they are not feeling well with themselves, they may need the help of a therapist and/or support group.